We have made it to the final application and topic post of this project. As much as I liked doing this project, I am a little glad it's over because I am curious about what my teacher will think, my final grade and because I do have other homework to do. See no denial or repression happening in that aspect of my life. Hmm I wonder if I do use any defense mechanisms in my educational life. Lets find out!
I have chosen to only touch on 3 of the defense mechanisms so I don't make this final post too long or boring for you. I chose repression, rationalization, and displacement. What ones do you use on a daily basis? Weekly? Let me know below!
There have been few times I have used repression because my mother raised me to deal with my feelings and talk them out which has helped a lot. The one situation that comes to mind is when a very close friend passed away. At the time I was in grade 11 almost halfway through my semester. My grades couldn't afford for me to break down or block out the world so I had to repress the sadness and anger until it was a less stressful time. That time never came because I had to deal with school, my first job and my mothers illness. Eventually I didn't even noticed these feelings because although my schedule was still full, I had friends and family supporting me and cheering me up any time the feelings threatened to come to the surface. This past June, all of those feelings came back when I found out that James had not actually passed away but was in a vegetative state and I had been told differently so I would move on. Since then with the help of family, friends and an amazing counselor, I have let go of my anger and sadness and just hope for James to wake up.
Rationalization shows up in my life mostly in my educational life. I have the bad habit of procrastination. When I end up doing a project last minute or don't get homework done, I rationalize it with usually the same excuses: I was sick (even if I wasn't), I had other projects to, I had to watch my cousins, work wore me out or one of the most popular, I wasn't given enough time (when I definitely was). I am working on this by prioritizing and planning my schedule better and not making excuses to teachers when the project is not done.
The final defense mechanism I want to touch on is denial. All children use this especially when they are getting in trouble. I often used it with my mom when I was yelled at for not doing a chore or leaving it until last minute because I didn't want to do it. I wouldn't tell her this of course. Instead I denied she told me or denied it was my job passing the blame to my brother. In work if I made a mistake, my method of denial would either be not saying anything at all or saying I don't remember being told to do it or how to do it. Taking responsibility is a large part of growing up and denial is a block of this.
I hope you enjoyed my project. Maybe I will see you soon!!
-Shinara Newton
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